Imagine an entire generation of secure attachment

by Effie Morchi on March 29, 2017

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The opposite of addiction is connection

by Rita Brhel on March 28, 2017

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Could it be that almost everything we think we know about addiction is wrong? Simply, exposure to illegal drugs will not necessarily, absolutely result in addiction in every person.

What if addiction isn’t about the chemical hook? What if addiction is actually about a lack of human connection?

Humans are born wired to bond — ideally, with another human. But humans who cannot bond with another person, due to emotional trauma, for example, will still bond with something. We know these human bond substitutes as addictions…to substances like alcohol or drugs, social media, gambling, shopping, and any number of other compulsions.

In this 2015 TED Talk, English journalist Johann Hari challenges us to look at addiction — and recovery — from a whole new angle:

As Johann shares, addiction recovery is not about punishing the addict for his or her need for connection. It’s not about threatening jail time if the addict will not stop using heroine. It’s about coming alongside the addict and healing the wound under the Band-Aid. Lasting, effective addiction recovery is about social rehab, not just individually but culturally — through how we are conditioning the next generation to reach out to virtual social connections more than in-person, human connections.

We need to get real with what addiction actually represents — a cry for help for people who never experienced a healthy human-to-human connection. In essence, Johann’s work shows us that addiction prevention and recovery starts with attachment.

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The toddler’s world

March 27, 2017
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Positive discipline begins at birth

March 24, 2017
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Your words can change the world: API needs your help!

March 22, 2017
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We all know the immense value of words in our homes, with our children and partners. Our words have the power to uplift others, to strengthen our bonds with our children and spouses, to repair a connection that needs a little boost after a conflict. Your words also have the power to help change the […]

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Balance tip #1: Strive to be a Very Good Parent, not the best

March 21, 2017
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“Evaluate balance over a full day or week, not every single moment. Instead of wanting to be the ‘best’ parent who has to do everything right, choose to be a ‘very good’ parent who sometimes makes mistakes and learns from them. Parents have to learn ‘on the job’ and should give themselves a break — […]

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Go ahead: Read that favorite story one more time

March 20, 2017
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Editor’s pick: How your childhood shaped your adult personality

March 17, 2017
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Parenting is largely undervalued in our society. So much discussion among politicians and policymakers centers on public education, gender equality, and poverty alleviation. These are all important areas, but parent support is glaringly missing from the list. When I refer to parent support, I mean research-backed parenting education for all parents regardless of income class […]

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